“Get Your Sh!t Together” – Book Review.

My Book Reviews

Self-Help and Motivation.  

‘Get Your Shit Together’ by Ruth Field, is a no-nonsense approach to sorting out all that stuff in your life that always has to get done in the end anyway. The crappy things that wreck your head and holds you back from doing all the things you WANT to do – the things you enjoy.

I was attracted to this book by the title and because it promised to show me how to get more things done in less time. I was having one of those muddled up weeks and nothing was getting done. The prescription for a simpler life is learning how to release your ‘inner bitch’ (apparently, we all have one) and become a fearless superwoman.

It urges you to take a good hard look at how you deal with life’s challenges and unexpected events. And just as importantly, the simple stuff that some of us turn into problems by not dealing with them early on. By her tough talking attitude, Ruth Field will have you shaking in your boots! If you have even a hint of laziness in your bones, she’ll shame you into getting off your butt and just doing whatever it is you whinge about never being able to do. She doesn’t listen to excuses folks, and it’s hard not to agree with a lot of what she writes! There are various little exercises throughout the book that can help you organise your time and get motivated. Don’t skip the very valuable exercise on page 148!

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The Feldenkrais Method. Mary Hunt.

Our healthy state of well-being is constantly being challenged by different aspects of and experiences in our lives. The key to health is to understand ourselves, so we enhance our strengths while minimising our weaknesses.

Through relaxation a person feels more at ease, secure, and can become open to positive change and better equipped to deal with life’s challenges.

It was while dealing with one of my own challenges in life, that I discovered the Feldenkrais method.

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They Might Call It Depression.

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Today I keep silent but inside I shout,
I try to wash away the shame, 
paint a smile upon my mouth.

My heart it is heavy,
full of unexplained sorrow. 
I can’t feel happy, not today,  
maybe tomorrow.

I walk and I walk and I keep on going,
where will the road lead me?
I don’t care, I don’t care.
Today I am trapped
in this dark consuming space. 
Nobody knows, nobody knows, 
they don’t see my face.

Today I hide away from the world and its doors,
the world as I see it, through my eyes,
not theirs and not yours. 

I hide my fear and I hide all expression. 
If I let them all know, they might call it depression!
I would no longer be me because then things would change,
just the girl no one talks to
because now she is strange! 

Her head is messed up,
her face is a fake. 
Her smile isn’t real
her mind, it might break.
Don’t sit too close to the girl who is sad. 
We can’t help her anyway, 
she’s crazy, she’s mad!

So I carry my despair to the end of the day,
and struggle to pray all the pain away.
I tell myself,
“I love myself, respect myself,
and heal myself”.

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Nobody knows, 
they don’t see my face, 
tomorrow will come
and I’ll be in a better place.

#Glitch #WorldMentalHealthDay

Rainbow Therapies With Sharon Bingham.

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Hi everyone. My name is Sharon Bingham and I’ve been a therapist for around 10 years. I’ve been interested in complimentary therapies for a long time now and although I do believe in orthodox medicine, I will try to find a natural remedy first. 

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Did Curiosity Really Kill The Cat?

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When I hear the word ‘curiosity’, it reminds me of the time Mrs. Palm Stinger (my school teacher) gave me six of the best with her worn out old ruler.  I was only about 8 years of age and in second class.  We were all standing in a circle, like the good little girls we were, doing our english reading.There was a knock on the classroom door and Mrs. Palm Stinger ordered us to remain quietly in our places.  As soon as the door closed behind her, the whispers and the giggling began. Of course everyone was dying to know who was at the door, including me! The girls teased and dared each other to sneak a peek. Nobody budged! Feeling very brave that day,  I dashed to the top of the room and took a quick glance through the glass panel door. Continue reading

Why Dental Floss is my New Friend.

I didn’t know what dental floss was when I was a child. Candy floss was more prominent in my vocabulary. The importance of taking special care of our teeth wasn’t drummed into me or my brothers when we were children.  

We thought it was normal to have teeth pulled when they decayed. “Sure we’ll get brand new ones like our parents did. Lovely new white straight teeth”. Did we really say that?  Yes, I’m afraid we did.

Of course we were warned many times about the dangers of eating too many sweets but it didn’t stop us munching our way through sticky toffees and sugary jellies. And who could forget the Blackjacks and Fruit Salads? About ten in a bag for 2p. And they lasted for hours.

I remember being so excited if I found a halfpenny on the street. I went straight to Mrs. Fultons sweet shop for a Golfball chewing gum. It used to last me three days!  A day at school went so slow when you had a couple of pennies in your pocket to spend in Mrs. Fultons on the way home. She was every child’s most favourite woman on the planet!

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Yoga and Me. 12 Weeks Later.

When I say I’ve been practicing yoga for twelve weeks now, what I really mean is that it’s twelve weeks since I first started learning how to do yoga. (Read about that here) I remember writing about how great I hope be at twisting, bending and by Christmas I’ll be kissing my toes!  Continue reading

Yes. I’m as Stiff as a Poker!

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I bounced in the door at 7pm with an enthusiastic grin on my face. The class had already started so I didn’t get a chance to introduce myself to the group. They all looked comfortable and relaxed stretched out in Savasana pose (also known as Corpse pose) and I couldn’t wait to join in.

Gemma grabbed a spot in the far corner of the room with her sister Charlene while I stayed near the door. I spread out my yoga mat and took off my shoes and lay down like a corpse. Yes, this was lovely. Nice and relaxing.

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Yoga is so easy.

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Come Dine With Me Please – Part One.

This is my first post in my new category ‘How I Made Time For Me This Weekend’. So what has prompted me to add this new category to my blog? Last Saturday and what I got up to – that’s what.

What does making time for yourself mean? For some people it’s about being alone for just an hour or two enjoying the peace and quiet. Maybe read a few chapters of a book by a favourite author or relaxing in a warm sudsy aromatherapy bath. Often time for yourself can include spending it with someone else. Continue reading

A Beautiful Aromatherapist!

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Have you ever had that moment in your life when you thought to yourself, ‘Dreams really can come true’? I had that moment just a couple of months ago. It was a moment when everything seemed complete and wholesome. I had just become a beautiful aromatherapist at the age of 48 and it was a wonderful feeling! I left Green Tara College after sitting my final exams and I had tears of joy and happiness in my eyes. This was everything that I had worked so hard for. Yet again I told myself, “I am strong, loving and powerful”.

Making Changes

My name is Eileen Smyth and I started my career as a bank clerk when my son was eight months old and for many years I enjoyed my work but I later found myself wishing for a new career. I longed to be in an environment where I could be myself. I wanted to explore my creative side and find out what else I was good at. It was when I reached the age of 40 I felt I had to change a lot of things in my life. Bit by bit I did make changes and I’m still making them.

When I fell into ill health as a result of a very bad back and ended up on crutches for nine months, I found myself in a situation where I had no choice but to make some major decisions. I decided that I had come to the end of my career in the bank and after eighteen years in a pensionable job, I resigned. During this time there was a lot of uncertainty in my life and I had a fear of the future, especially in terms of financial independence. Here I was, embarking on a whole new journey with no fixed agenda, except a yearning to do something with my life. Something for me!

A New Beginning

Still feeling crippled with my back problems, I began to explore ways in which I could self heal. I became interested in energy and chakra healing and I began experimenting with angel meditations. I then decided that I wanted to learn more about reiki. In April 2014 I visited Green Tara College where I met with College Director, Majella Fagan. I was immediately captured by Majella’s obvious passion for reiki healing and the peaceful and harmonious energy in the college really impressed me. And so began my journey of self healing.

I completed levels one and two in reiki and I absolutely loved it. I was enthralled by the whole holisitic approach of Green Tara College and I knew that I was on the right path. I wanted to take my holistic therapy training to the next step and with so many therapies to choose from, I couldn’t decide which one I wanted to study. Since anatomy and physiology (A&P) is a mandatory unit in the ITEC diploma courses that Green Tara has to offer, I decided to enrol in this to get a head start.

Finding my Inspiration

When I left my job in the bank I moved out of town into a lovely little cottage surrounded by beautiful fields and plenty of places to walk our dog Bruce. It is while I’m out walking in the peace and quiet that I am at my happiest and it’s a time when I like to meditate and ask for guidance about what is next for me. Throw it all out to the universe! This is also a time when I feel inspired to try new things. New ideas! I decided that I wanted to be an aromatherapist. This wasn’t exactly a new idea because aromatherapy is a subject I have always had a special interest in. Down through the years I have enjoyed making lip balms, bath salts, facial creams and blending oils for treating aches and pains. I love the synergistic effect of the oils and I enjoy experimenting with them. I have always been very much aware of the diverse effects of the individual aromas on our emotions. Many years ago I worked for a wine and spirits company and I very often nosed drinks for them. I was known as a “good nose” in the company and I really did get a kick out of this.

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As soon as I made the decision to sign up for the ITEC diploma in aromatherapy, I was very excited about it. Excited about the fact that I was now on the road to becoming a qualified aromatherapist and I will learn how to mix unique personal blends for my clients. I started in November 2014 and I was hooked from day one. When our lovely teacher Gloria, explained the concept of aromatherapy and how it works, I was intrigued. Although I had some insight into the world of essential oils, I knew I had so much to learn. I made a personal commitment there and then that I was going to become the best aromatherapist I possibly could be.

My Highs and Lows

By this stage I was half way through my A&P course and the exams were approaching, so I was a little bit stressed to say the least. I found it very factual and quite difficult. I couldn’t afford to fall behind. I learnt the importance of staying focused and sticking to a study plan. My biggest challenge was keeping my nerves and anxiety from holding me back – I get very nervous when I’m under pressure – so I had to work very hard at staying calm. I use affirmations and my favourite one during times like this is, ‘I am strong, loving and powerful’. When I got the call to tell me I had successfully passed my A&P I was absolutely thrilled. It gave me a boost in confidence and encouraged me to push forward.

The weeks flew by after this and in no time we were half way through our aromatherapy course. I absolutely loved the aromatherapy lectures and I looked forward to each class so much. The encouragement and enthusiasm of our teacher was outstanding. I loved everyone in the class and we had many laughs. We really were a great bunch of budding aromatherapists.

I am an honest person and I do not mind sharing that I did struggle enormously with learning the massage. This was my biggest fear! I did not feel good enough. From the moment we started to learn the massage routine I struggled. I felt awkward and clumsy and I found it extremely difficult with my back being so bad. Some days I was very stiff and sore and I felt like crying and running out the door. I also struggled with my self confidence. There were times when I just froze during class and wasn’t able to think – as if my mind just shut down.

I come across as being a very sociable and chatty person. I look well and can present a very positive and competent attitude, but inwardly I struggle during times like this. It brought back some sad childhood memories for me. I was bullied and picked on by a teacher when I was in primary school and it is something that I have had to come to terms with as part of my own personal healing journey. This was about me and nobody else and it was up to me to overcome it.

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Honesty

I believe what helped me the most was being honest with myself, my teacher Gloria and my class mates. I was not afraid to ask for help. One day I picked up the phone to Gloria (who I always received plenty of good advice from) and I explained how bad I was feeling.

This really helped me. During my low points, my self esteem would slip and yet what comforted me was the fact that I knew I was not giving up. I have had some low points in my life and I have had to pick myself up and carry on as best as I could. Now I had discovered in myself a new determination. What also helped me throughout many challenges in my life was my faith and spirituality. I used meditations, walks, many prayers seeking guidance and reassurance and regardless of how I felt at times, I found this to be of great benefit.

Learning to Say ‘No’

Outside of the lecture room and away from the banter of my ‘Aroma Buddies’, I threw myself into my work. I found the case studies quite challenging but I enjoyed doing the consultations for clients and making up the blends for them. It was interesting to see how they progressed from week to week. In order to keep up with the case studies I had to remain focused and firm in my decision to say ‘no’ at times to family members and friends. Although this was difficult at times, ‘no’ had to really mean ‘no’! Definitely a word we all need to learn how to use effectively.

As the exam dates approached, the pressure was on in the college. We had to start putting all our new found knowledge together like a jigsaw puzzle. Perfect our practical skills, get our timing right, display our understanding of hygiene and safety regulations and the importance of client care and communication. By now we had to be more particular about blending our oils to perfection and work hard at improving our oral skills. I was very scared by now.

A Friend in Need

I got along particularly well with one of my class mates Dawn. I teamed up with her and she came around to my house every week from March until exam day. We worked really hard together and kept each other motivated. We laughed and we cried but we stuck together because we were so committed. We made up funny poems (which I don’t think I’ll ever forget) about the chemical constituents of essential oils to help us learn them. I did this a lot to help me remember things associated with aromatherapy and A&P. I would highly recommend this as part of a study plan.

I always say that if I could put Dawn into a bottle, I would label it ‘The Best Tonic Ever’. She really kept me going at this stage of my training. She had the ability to make my world brighter and more beautiful.

Practice Really Does Make Perfect

Because of my bad back, I personally felt that I was weaker at massage than the other students. It was the thorn in my side and it meant I had to work extra hard to keep up the pace. This proved to me though, that it really is possible to achieve anything once you put the work in. Practice really does make perfect!

Dawn and I kept up the pace until the final exams on the weekend of the 6th and 7th June and along with the other students we completed our final exams. The atmosphere in the college that day was amazing. All the students were looking so well groomed and professional. I put my heart and soul into it that weekend and I felt very proud to have come so far. And even though I was nervous I kept it under control and didn’t let it show. I just kept repeating to myself, “I am strong, loving and powerful”. We all received very positive feedback from the examiner. We all did extremely well and we were so proud of ourselves. I even thought to myself, ‘What was I worrying about?’

When I left the college that day, I knew I was highly capable and yes, I had become a beautiful aromatherapist.

My Future

The experience of studying in Green Tara College as a mature student has helped me enormously. I have gained more confidence despite my inward struggles and I feel I have healed some more. I am excited about my future and I look forward to developing my skills further.

I have a fondness for the story of how French chemist René-Maurice Gattefossé realized the exceptional healing qualities of lavender essential oil as far back as 1910. This piece of history along with my love for aromatherapy and the french language, prompted me to choose the words ‘J’adore L’aromathérapie’ for my business card caption. I aspire to be the best therapist I can be and take special care of my clients and it is my aim to share my new found and on-going knowledge with those who come my way.

Advice

Yes it’s a cliché, but “If I can do it, anybody can do it”. Sometimes, the first step is making the decision in the first place. Follow your heart and start as you mean to go on. When you are passionate about something, you will learn more and you will have the motivation to carry on. Draw up a study plan and stick to it. Be consistent with your studies. Keep on top of the case studies as they are very time consuming but they are a very important part of the learning process. If you are struggling, say so and confide in someone you trust in. A problem shared is a problem halved. Team up with like minded people. Remember to put yourself first and learn how to say no. It is also very important to take time out for yourself. Keep a journal of your dreams and ideas and tick them off when you complete them. Keep believing in yourself. Things are not always how we imagine or perceive them to be. You don’t know what is around the corner for you.

Thank you Green Tara College

I am grateful for what I have learned in Green Tara College. My journey with holistic therapies began here and no doubt part of it will continue here. It has been a wonderful experience for me and I will always remember the great support that I received from the college staff, my family and my friends.

Well done Eileen

Thank you so much Eileen for sharing your story. I have no doubt that you will be a very compasionate therapist and I wish you all the best for the future. You can connect with Eileen and learn more about her on Linkedin