Reducing Your Stress Levels This Christmas!

Stress has a negative effect on the body including the immune system and Christmas is the most stressful time of year for some people. Although some stressful situations are unavoidable, others you can completely avoid. Save yourself as much stress as possible so that you can enjoy a healthy happy Christmas.

Money Money Money

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Money makes the world go round and it also causes annoyance and stress for so many people. Why people need to borrow tons of money and get themselves into unnecessary debt is beyond me. I have never borrowed money for Chrismas in all my life. That’s not because I never had to worry about money. I’ll be 50 years old young at the end of December so that’s 49 Christmases I’ve survived. Yes….survived!

As a child, I didn’t need to worry about money for Christmas – my parents did that! But I don’t believe they worried themselves sick about it because it was different back then. Christmas lasted a few days not a whole month.

When I was a young working adult, all I needed was money to buy presents for my parents, one or two friends and enough to buy some nice clothes and a few nights out. I always had enough.

Then I started having children and we all know how that goes! But here’s the thing – all that concerned me was making sure the children had a happy Christmas. Sometimes I could afford nice clothes and nights out, but I also experienced the times when I barely had enough for a fancy dinner.

As the kids got older, the lists got longer and more expensive. That didn’t mean they got everything on the wish list. They got what their parents could afford and did they love us any less for it? No, of course they didn’t. Were they psychologically damaged because of it? No!

The meaning of receiving and giving presents has changed for so many. Down through the years, I’ve witnessed people turning their noses up at presents they’ve received. Wishlists have turned into ‘needs’ lists. I understand that children ask parents or Santa for particular things but that seems to be the norm now with everybody.

Part of the fun is guessing what someone might like – or it used to be anyway! It is no fun shopping for a present for someone that is so damned fussy and unappreciative. Oh….I forgot to mention the people who compare the prices.

One Christmas I witnessed a grown woman throwing a mini tantrum because she received a gift voucher! What?? Yes, Christmas has changed over the years.

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This may make me sound like a bit of a ‘Bah Humbug’ but it’s quite the opposite. Because I no longer allow this present buying competitiveness to cause me unnecessary stress. Instead, I concentrate on looking after my health and making sure the people I care about are happy and well looked after. That doesn’t cost the earth.

Your Budget

Plan within your budget. Do not borrow money unless you are 100% certain that paying it back will cause you minimum stress. If you couldn’t afford to save a little each week during the run-up to Christmas then how will you manage to pay back a loan? Ask yourself; do I really need to borrow money or can I manage with what I have.

Okay, the amount of food that people buy into their homes at Christmas is beyond ridiculous. So much of it gets thrown out and most of it is absolute junk. If you’re still eating Christmas food in January it means you bought way too much. If you’re sick looking at turkey 3 days after Christmas, don’t buy such a big one this time.

Stop trying to keep up with the Joneses – or even the Kardashians! If your neighbours have hundreds or thousands to splash out at Christmas, let them. It’s their business and if you’re afraid that you will be judged on how much you spend, then STOP!! Just please stop and ask yourself; what will happen if I don’t have as much as my neighbours? I’ll tell you what will happen. Nothing! You’ll probably sleep better and anyway, you don’t really know how well off your neighbours are. They might in so much debt that they are more stressed than you are.

Don’t be afraid to admit to people that some things are not within your budget. So what if they judge you. If someone in your life buys you and your children expensive presents, it is okay to explain that you are not in a position to do the same. You can ask them to buy less expensive presents. On the other hand, some people just enjoy spending their money on friends and family members and they don’t expect a lot in return. It’s okay to allow generous people to do that. It’s when they expect luxurious gifts in return, it can cause problems for the people who are just not as well off financially as they are. Remember, there are other ways of being generous.

Positivity

Are you negative towards Christmas or bouncing around the place with joyful positivity? The way you think and feel about things plays a huge part in your experiences. The more positive thoughts you have about any event or situation, the more enjoyable it will be – and less stressful! Those who enjoy the festive season are the ones who are more positive about it. And don’t say under breath, ‘Well it’s alright for them they have.….’ What they have and don’t have has very little to do with it. They choose to like Christmas.

So, unless you are one of the unfortunate people that has a valid reason for not getting into the festive spirit, do try to create for yourself a more positive attitude towards it.

Not Always Joyful

I totally understand some people’s reasons for hating Christmas. It’s not a happy joyful season for everybody. Deaths occur around this time just like any other time of the year. This can leave years of unhappy memories for people and understandably dampens their spirit. With the right support from good friends and family, they can learn to enjoy Christmas again.

Terminally ill people don’t recover just because it’s Christmas. It can actually make it a very sad and lonely time for them and their families. Spare a thought for people in this situation and appreciate your good health and well-being.

Domestic abuse rises during this time of year. Money can become an issue, alcohol is plentiful and the slightest little imperfection can be an excuse for a full-blown row. I can’t offer advice to people in this situation. All I can say is please do get help and remove yourself if at all possible (and I think it is possible) from an abusive relationship. There is a lot of help available and don’t be embarrassed about getting it. I’m not just talking about women here – men also suffer from domestic abuse!

Family

Let’s face it, we can choose our friends but we can’t choose our family. Christmas sometimes forces us to spend time with a family member who we wouldn’t normally spend time with. It’s all well and good saying that it’s a time for being close to our loved ones and a time for joy, happiness and forgiveness, but in reality that’s easier said than done in some cases.

It takes two people to make an effort and make things work. When there’s a member of the family who causes upset and uneasiness in the room, it’s enough to spoil the whole day for everyone. You’ve spent the last few weeks trying your best to prepare for a happy stress-free Christmas and then you have to spend the day walking on eggshells.

Is there a solution to this? Can this person spend Christmas in their own home or with someone else? If someone doesn’t respect you and your home, tell them to make other arrangements. And yes, it is that simple. Don’t be a martyr.

Worried about getting everything done? Like what? Buy the presents and the food. Spring is the season after winter so you can spring clean then. You don’t need to start painting and redecorating the whole house for Christmas. You can get away with just doing your usual housework routine. Mothers who work full-time outside the home do not need the added stress of spring cleaning in December.

Make a List

Not a list of presents you’d like to receive, but a list of all the things you are grateful for this Christmas. What have you got that puts a smile on your face every day? Make a list of all the things that you DON’T need and can do without.

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I read a lovely blog post recently by Angela Noel. She has a long list of things she’d like for Christmas. Go have a little read. I promise you’ll like it!

Wishing you a very happy stress-free Christmas!

 

Walking Lightly. Noeleen Watson’s First Book of Poems

Walking Lightly is Noeleen Watson’s first book of poems. On a journey of self-discovery, Noeleen realises her true potential as she finds she has a gift of putting words on paper that create something special. 

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Atlantis Éire Holistic Health & Celtic Spirit Magazine

While some people cruise through life without ever giving their spirit a second thought, the search for the meaning of life and death is a desire that some of us just can’t ignore. The process of soul searching can be a long road for some people. It can be confusing, difficult, ambiguous and very often unpredictable. But it can also be the most enlightening and rewarding experience. Finding and connecting with our own spirituality can be life changing in so many ways.

Searching for your Spiritual Path

Whether it’s an easy or difficult journey, I’m sure we all have one thing in common – we yearn to satisfy our curiosity about the spirit and our universe. Some of us will be forever curious about the mysteries of life and will spend an eternity searching for something we may never find.

We all seek different answers and explanations. What might satisfy the curiosity of one person, may not necessarily satisfy the next. There are many beliefs and ancient myths about spirituality and life & death. What we need is to be open minded about these beliefs in order to find what resonates with us. Learn from each other’s experiences and follow your own heart because it’s your spirit and your journey.

Reading is one of the most effective ways of learning. Atlantis Éire Magazine is a source of information that can help you to find your path.

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Love Your Personality & Don’t Hide it Away.

Oh dear! My alter ego, Miss Personality herself, Tasheenga, is not happy that her blog hasn’t been entered into the V by Very Blog Awards. I think she feels a little bit left out! Her blog is still a fledgeling and maybe next year she’ll get the opportunity to shine. If she behaves!

She gets very annoyed at me when I instruct her to stay calm and quieten down. Sometimes she tries to help but quite often her input can hinder a situation rather than improve it.

Occasionally I allow her to help me to write my posts on We Are Holistic, but she’s safer over on her own little blog. She can rant and rave all she wants in her own little corner of the internet. Yes, I do value her input but I can’t let her think that she can completely take over. I need to balance all the different parts of myself. Ashamedly, I have to admit, I did try to keep her a secret but by following the advice of a very wise friend, I revealed the true identity of Tasheenga. 

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Liebster Award? Thank You!

One of my favourite things about blogging is the support and friendship received by fellow bloggers from all over the blogosphere. I’m part of a wonderful blogging group called Big up Your Blog. It’s a drama free group where everyone loves to help each other. No meanies allowed and everyone plays by the rules. (Even fabulous people need rules.)

I have to say, I was thrilled when Shelley Wilson, mega blogger and author – find her HERE on her author blog and HERE on her motivational blog – nominated me for the Liebster award. No big deal? Excuse me, but I’ve been DYING to get nominated to take part in one of these fun posts that bloggers share with each other. So thank you Shelley. You made my day!

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What is it Exactly?

The Liebster award is given to bloggers by other bloggers. The idea is to welcome new bloggers into the blogging world and help them to get noticed. However, it seems that anyone established or starting out can be nominated.

The word “liebster” originates from Germany and has several meanings;  welcome, sweetest, pleasant, nicest, dearest, beloved, lovely, kind, valued, cute, kindest and endearing.

The blogger who nominates you asks 11 questions and then in return you nominate 5-11 bloggers with your own 11 questions. Lorraine from Wording Well explains in more detail.

There is no obligation to accept, but since it’s nice to be asked, it’s nice to keep it going. 

Here’s what Shelley wants to know from me

Q1 Have you met any of your internet friends in real life?

No. I have yet to meet my internet buddies in real life. Some day hopefully!

Q2 What’s your favourite TV show? What character would you be from that show?

I don’t watch much TV but if I see the Big Bang Theory on, I’ll stop what I’m doing to watch it. Sheldon just cracks me up! I’d love to be Amy but in real life I’m more of a Penny.

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Q3 What’s your favourite kind of blog post to write? (Book review, personal post, fiction, etc.)

I like writing about fun with friends as it makes me laugh. I enjoy writing the light-hearted personal posts on my fledgling blog, Tasheenga Writes Here. It’s just for fun!

Q4 What are your most and least favourite things about blogging?

The thing I love most about blogging is the camaraderie between fellow bloggers. I also love the buzz I get when I hit publish!! My least favourite thing? Time. I wish I had more of it. I try to squeeze too much into my life but that’s not such a bad thing I suppose.

Q5 Is there a genre you wouldn’t read? Why?

I like some science fiction but I’m not a fan of steampunk. I tried reading it a couple of times and I just didn’t enjoy it. 

Q6 Which of your own blog posts is your personal favourite? Why?

My all time favourite post is ‘Come Dine With Me Please – Part Two’. My friends and I play Come Dine With Me, and this was Jackie’s night in our 2016 competition. It’s my favourite one because it was such a fabulous night. I believe that fun with friends is the best therapy.  We don’t take each other too seriously and just enjoy a good laugh and having the banter.

Q7 Do you have any pets? If so, what are they and do they help/hinder your blogging/writing? If no, what would be your ideal pet?

My six year old is allergic to cats, dogs, horses and cows. So my husband is my pet and don’t get me started on whether he helps or hinders my writing!! A bit of both to be honest. But he’s brilliant and I adore him!! 

I’m a cat and dog lover. My daughter has the most beautiful cat who I wish lived with me!

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Meet Malibu

Q8 What’s your favourite type of takeaway food?

King prawn biryani. Nom Nom!!

Q9 What would be your ideal career? Why?

A professional spa goer! Getting paid to visit spas and then write reviews about it. Why? Because I love spas and I don’t get to go enough. And I love writing!

Q10 Which author do you like to recommend the most?

Terry Tyler. I haven’t read all her books yet but I recommend her to all my friends and anyone else I chat to about books.

Q11 Who’s your go to band/artist when you can’t decide on something to listen to?

André Rieu! Love him!


And now I would like to nominate the following bloggers for the Liebster award;

  1. Caroline Cunningham at Wild Star Landing
  2. Jean Reinhardt 
  3. Claire Wong
  4. Katie – better known as Fatty McCupcakes
  5. Lorna at Gin and Lemonade
  6. Krystal Long
  7. Diane at Yes This Moment
  8. Gabe Burkhardt at Almost Unsalvageable
  9. Kerry Manning at Fabulicious Fifty
  10. Kate Ennals
  11. Sarah Whiley

And here’s my questions;

  1. When are you at your happiest?
  2. If you were to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes, whose would it be?
  3. What’s usually the first thing to pop into your mind when you wake up each morning?
  4. What’s your biggest regret in life? If any!
  5. If you were to be reincarnated as an animal, what animal would you like to be and why?
  6. What’s your favourite smell and why?
  7. Are you a slow writer or can you whip up in a good post in a couple of hours?
  8. What household chore do you hate doing most? Or is there one you actually enjoy? 
  9. What colour dominates your wardrobe?
  10. What’s your laugh type? Quiet & Polite, loud & boisterous, more of a chuckle, or a musical ha ha ha ha?
  11. Are you a romantic?

The Rules

I’ve found that the rules vary slightly but they’re all similar!

  • Thank the person who nominated you and link to their blog.
  • Answer the 11 questions the person asked you.
  • Answer the 11 questions the person asked you.
  • Nominate 5-11 people (comment on their blog to let them know).
  • Ask the people you have nominated 11 questions.    
  • List these rules in your post.
  • And most importantly…….

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Tears Make a Rainbow.

Your Rainbow.

When you’re blue and full of grey

A bit of colour can change your day.

 

Behind those tears you’re trying to hide

A rainbow is glowing and bursting with pride.

 

Your tears will heal and make you strong,

So look for that rainbow to help you along.

 

It smiles and it sings deep in your soul

It’s magical colours dance and cajole.

 

There’s a rainbow inside you

It’s not hard to find,

Just close your eyes and focus your mind. 

A heart of Rainbow

The Simple Things That Make Me Smile!

Today is World Mental Health Day.

Taking care of your mental health is vital and many of us don’t give it the attention it deserves. Even though you might feel absolutely fine, it doesn’t mean that you should ignore your mental health.

Whether you’re happy, sad, anxious, fearful, fed-up, bored, busy, or stressed always make time for yourself. Even if it’s something simple like smiling in front of the mirror!

A few days ago I read a simple but inspiring post on a blog that I discovered recently – Another 30 Thing That Make Me Happy! – and I was smiling while reading it because it reminded me of lots of things that make happy.

I think it’s an exercise everybody should do occasionally. No matter how bad your day is going, surely you can think of many things in your life that make you happy, or at least make you smile.

Write them down and allow yourself to smile your biggest smile and feel grateful for all that you have. Rather than fretting about the things you don’t have.

Try it and let me know how you get on!

Here are 30 Things That Make me Smile!

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The Whisperings of Nature. Book Review.

Tranquility in Poetry & Nature!

‘The Whisperings of Nature’ is an endearing little poetry book written by Caroline Cunningham. This is Caroline’s first published book of poetry and it represents her ‘stepping into the light’ with her written work.

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What do you think of Robin’s Mental Health?

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I can’t help wonder about this person’s mental health! Robin (not her real name) is very active on a particular social media platform. She is not one of these people who use social media to make life appear wonderful, (when in reality it’s pretty crap). No photoshopped selfies that make her look like a plastic version of herself. No happy family photos of days out, girlie nights in, her latest successful attempt at cooking a delicious gourmet dinner and no location check-ins! Continue reading

A Healer Working in The NHS! Wendy’s Story.

Hello everyone,

My name is Wendy and I’m here to tell you about how I went from being a cynical non-believer, to an accredited healer working in the NHS. I hope you enjoy my story and most of all, I hope some of you feel inspired by it.

My Story.

Thirty six years ago my dearest friend Elaine lost her husband while he was carrying out his duties as a fireman. Rescuing a cat from a tree, would appear to be one of the easiest and straight forward tasks expected from a fireman, so it’s hard to imagine how it can result in him losing his life.

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